What to Not Be Honest About

Last Updated on Wednesday, 22 February 2017 01:30 Written by Pam Chambers Wednesday, 22 February 2017 01:30

I bet you admire speakers who are genuine, authentic, and real. I know I do. An audience is smarter than any single individual. An audience has a collective intelligence that can sniff out dishonesty in mere seconds. Therefore, in my presentation skills classes, I teach people to be truthful. See these two examples:

“My mind just went blank. Where was I? Somebody help me out.”

“I don’t know the answer to that question, but I know where to find it. Please give me your business card and I’ll get back to you tomorrow.”

But then my clients went too far and started to be honest about two facts they should have kept to themselves:

  1. I’m really, really nervous.
  2. I didn’t prepare.

The audience doesn’t need (or want) to know about either of these. These statements lower the credibility of the speaker and cause the audience members to either worry that the speaker will fall apart in front of them, or to feel insulted that the speaker didn’t respect them enough to be prepared.

As for nervousness, people usually don’t look as nervous as they fear, and there are workable steps they can take to reduce nervousness ahead of time. (Breathing, visualizing, stretching.) As for not being prepared, there is little excuse for that. Even if you are suddenly called on to give a report in the boardroom, you can say, “Could you give me a few minutes to prepare my thoughts?”

Be honest with discretion.


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Stage Fright Can Easily Be Explained

Last Updated on Sunday, 12 February 2017 03:28 Written by Pam Chambers Sunday, 12 February 2017 03:28

Stage fright can easily be explained.

When you are seated at a conference table among your peers, you are equal to them, and part of them. From that physical position, it’s fairly easy to throw out a question, offer an opinion, or make a suggestion. But if you are required to “stand and deliver,” the equation changes. They are seated. You are standing. Thus, more is expected of you than when you were one of them. All eyes are on you and they may be watching in addition to listening. And, yes — sorry for the bad news — they are judging and evaluating.

A predatory lion, when stalking a herd of zebras, will asses which zebra it can most easily isolate. That isolated zebra is now as good as gone. When you stand to speak in the boardroom, Mother Nature may sense your fear and send adrenaline into your bloodstream so that you can fight or flee. But you will do neither. You’re too civilized to get into a brawl or run out of the room screaming.

Now, in addition to having judging eyes on you and being isolated from your peers, you also have to deal with the effects of having too much energy (adrenaline) in your body. This can cause head-to-toe trembling, a shaky voice, dried-up contact lenses, a blank mind, and utterances you can’t trust (or remember, once you sit down).

What’s the solution to stage fright? Speak often. Speak about what you know and love. Learn tips and tools for “what to do if . . .”

There’s an app for that. It’s called Pam Chambers. I can help. You can get my digital book, Life is a Presentation, for free by going to www.pamchambers.com. If you live in Hawaii, you can take my class or have one-on-one coaching. Even if you are far, far away, we can work together via video and You-Tube.

I am living proof that stage fright can be conquered.



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Buzz about Public Speaking Coach Pam Chambers

Last Updated on Friday, 3 February 2017 09:03 Written by Pam Chambers Friday, 3 February 2017 09:03

Who doesn’t enjoy receiving rave reviews about their work? I sure do! Here are some comments from satisfied customers.

“I want to thank you. Your course really helped me in so many ways. I feel so comfortable talking to people and in how I present myself. I’m pretty much a reserved person in private, but I am not afraid to speak in front of people. Really, you are a blessing to me and so many others.

~ Love you always, Henry Kapono

“When she spoke to the audience, she displayed confidence and control. She did not have to yell to keep their attention focused on her. I thought that was a phenomenal display of competence and charisma.

~ High school student

“I know were more aware of things like number of slides, image on slide, less text, speaking from heart and intelligence rather than reliance on slides and notes. Projecting voice. Welcoming audience at door. Coordination of clothing. I believe weʻre in much better shape because of your suggestions.”

~ Edna, Mid-Pacific Institute

Your presentation included a refreshing variety of sentence lengths.



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