Choose the Right Channel

Last Updated on Sunday, 16 September 2018 11:21 Written by Pam Chambers Sunday, 16 September 2018 11:21

Some people explain that they are “too self-conscious” to speak in front of others. My response is, “You’re right. You’re too self-conscious.” People seem slightly taken aback when I say this, but it’s true.

Your brain can be on only one channel at a time. There are three to choose from.

  1. The Me Channel: When you are on this channel, you are thinking only about yourself. “How’s my hair? Did I wear the right outfit? What should I do with my hands? What if I don’t know the answer?”
  2. The Them Channel: This is much better. This channel allows you to focus on the audience. What causes them to lean in? When do they start taking notes? That man has a question on his face. Find out what he’s wondering. When you are on this channel, self-consciousness is not possible.
  3. The Us Channel: This is the ideal channel. Think of it as a seamless circuit. You put an idea out there. You see a response. You respond to that response. They respond to that response. This creates the wonderful state of “Us-ness.”

Choose the right channel.

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When Did Speaking in Front of Others Become Uncomfortable?

Last Updated on Saturday, 1 September 2018 06:39 Written by Pam Chambers Saturday, 1 September 2018 06:39

Probably not last month, or last year, but when you were in grade school. You had to get up in front of the class and give an oral book report, or describe your science project. Perhaps for the first time in your young life, your friends became your enemies. You flubbed a word. Someone snickered. Your face turned red. More people snickered. Your mind went blank. Your teacher frowned and told you to continue. Bam! You made a decision: This is not safe. And forever after, memories such as these were linked to being in front of people.

In my classes, people ask, What am I so afraid of? Normally Im a confident person! I think at the bottom of this fear lies the horrendous thought that you might be so unacceptable, make such a fool of yourself, and be so unrespectable, that you might as well pack up and leave town. The city would be abuzz about how awful you were. Most basic, you might be abandoned – left to circulate through the universe, outcast and alone.

Sounds melodramatic, but people nod in agreement when I describe it this way. What can you do if you have a presentation in the near future?

  1. Tell yourself the truth about how you think and feel.
  2. Realize that that was then, and this is now.
  3. Discover a desire to share your message. How will it help people?
  4. Know your subject, and if possible, love your subject.
  5. Clarify your intended result and call for action.
  6. Figure out what to wear.
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Could You Stand Alone?

Last Updated on Friday, 17 August 2018 10:20 Written by Pam Chambers Friday, 17 August 2018 10:20

“NOW we’re talking!” That’s what I said aloud when I recently watched a YouTube video of comedian Demetri Martin perform a hilarious routine without any bells or whistles. On the stage were three things: Demetri, a stool, and a glass of water. Oh, and about half-way into the gig he produced a flip chart which contained pages of simple drawings that accompanied his jokes.

It was a relief to not be distracted by somber lighting, power point images with too many illegible words, and confusing slides that didn’t direct the gaze. Our eye knew exactly where to be on Demetri. And to his credit, he was dressed as plainly as possible: ordinary shoes, non-decript pants, a plain t-shirt, and well-fitting unzipped sweatshirt. The only note-worthy element was his signature Beatles-style haircut.

As a coach, my goal for each student and client is to have them be ABLE to do it this way. If all your technical tools and devices were to be snatched away by fate, could you stand alone and deliver a memorable message? Become that kind of speaker.


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